I believe that human beings are fundamentally relational- we understand ourselves through our relationships with others, and our relationships with ourselves. Counselling provides an opportunity for a unique and healing relationship- one of non-judgement, unconditional acceptance, and active collaboration. The warm, encouraging and open atmosphere I provide in counselling helps my clients to learn, grow, and heal from their present challenges and past grievances. I am passionate about the work that I do, and feel that it is my duty (and privilege!) to connect with you, as a unique individual with a complex history and identity/ies. In our work together, expect to feel safe in your skin and secure in the room with me, which has great power to translate in your life at large.
I am so grateful to be working at Honey + Garlic. This wonderful health collective offers a variety of wellness services, which not only enables clients to get multi-faceted treatment in the same location, but also represents my value of approaching mental health holistically. Having counselling at the forefront with other wellness services is also powerfully anti-stigmatizing. We all need help, and it takes great courage to ask for it. It is my strong belief that “you don’t have to be sick, to get better”, and I hope to get the chance to help you improve your life in the ways that you desire.
The counselling approach I use is called Emotions Focused Therapy (EFT). For many, the word “emotion” can be scary. We are not often brought up in a world that tells us “it’s ok to feel how you feel”, and we are very lucky if we have ever been modeled healthy emotional regulation. As such, we often create ways to avoid the scariness or discomfort of emotions- we withdraw, lash out, numb out, develop physical ailments, and more. My approach to counselling allows us to get in touch with the usefulness of emotions- what they tell us that we need, and how we can go about getting those needs met. I also use an active experiential approach that balances emotional/body focus in the present moment, with cognitive integration/insight.
My areas of interest and experience include but are not limited to:
- Anxiety & Depression
- Stress & Life Balance
- Relationship Issues
- Sexuality Concerns, Polyamorous Dynamics
- LGBTQ2 issues
- Shame, Guilt & Self-criticism
- Life Transitions
- Isolation & Loneliness
- Dissatisfaction & Personal Growth
- Grief & Loss
- Addiction (including using alcohol, drugs, food, gaming, gambling, sex etc. to cope)
In addition to my extensive training in the EFT approach for couples and individuals, I also have training in Adlerian Therapy, Art Therapy, Sexuality and Sexual Health (including polyamorous relationships), Play Therapy for children, Cognitive Behavioral Therapy and Mindfulness.
I work with individuals and with couples. I also have experience leading therapeutic groups.
With individuals, we start sessions openly, whereby you can have space to share your story- what it is that is troubling you, and what it is that you would like to see changed. These questions are not always easily answered and we can spend time collaborating on a focus, which often evolves as our work together progresses. Some people prefer and benefit from an active goal-oriented structure, while others prefer and benefit from a more process-oriented open approach. I work hard to meet your needs and openly accept feedback as to what works best for you.
With couples, the first session is much the same as with an individual session: you have the space to share what has brought you to counselling from the individual and/or shared perspective. As needed, we use the second or third session to meet individually with each partner, whereby I can gather important information about your unique history that will better inform the couples’ work. Thereafter, you will come in together and we will begin to track your “cycle” (every couple has one!) using the “road map” provided by EFT, that helps each person to connect with, decode, and share the adaptive emotions that underlie the negative interactions. This process will create greater understanding and bonding with your partner, equipping you to catch yourself from re-entering old negative cycles, and build a new healthy cycle that helps you to cope with the problems that all couples will face, without it eroding the core security of your bond.
For more information please visit my website at Naomi Adams – Relational Counselling
If you would like to schedule a session or a free 20-minute consultation (in person or via telephone), call Honey + Garlic at 604-879-5023 or email at firstname.lastname@example.org. You can also conveniently see my availability and book online through the clinic’s website. I look forward to meeting you on your journey toward the best version of yourself.